JJ: I can’t find my self-control.
Jayla: Tell Justice to stop smiling at me!
Justice: Where are we going tomorrow?
Daddy: To Chicago
Justice: Can I ride my bike?
JJ: Justice let me borrow his socks because we are brothers and that’s what brothers do.
Jayla (upon exiting the bathroom and flushing the toilet for apparently no reason I asked her what she was doing): Baby went potty.
Justice: Is summer after Christmas?
JJ: You beat me because my bike ran out of gas.
Jayla: I’m scared of the moose at church.
Justice: There are 60 minutes in 1 hour.
Me (to JJ while folding laundry): Who’s shirt is this?
JJ: Better check the size.
Justice: Mommy, if you go for a run and push Jayla in the stroller people are going to think that you are crazy.
:)
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
First Week Is In the Books
Well, it’s been a little over a week now since Justice has been home with us! It seems like he has always been with us though….I am amazed at the way he has adjusted and transitioned to his new life and new family, even though it’s only been a few days. He has breezed through the time change like it ain’t no thang. He is eating and trying everything! I am so surprised with this. In Ghana he would always order fried chicken and rice. For every meal. For breakfast he would eat rice and beans. For lunch he would eat chicken and rice. And the dinner request was again chicken and rice. So far out of the 9 days he has been here I have only made him chicken and rice once. Other than that he’s eaten beef roast, pizza, scalloped potatoes and ham, spaghetti, beef and noodles, taco pie, rice-a-roni, McDonalds and Hickory Park. For the meals at home he is averaging about 3 plates/servings and he says everything is ‘very good’. This past weekend we were at a tournament in Chicago so we ate at restaurants mostly and he prefers to order spaghetti! That seems to be his favorite so far. At Sam’s Club a few weeks ago they had samples of parmesan encrusted tilapia and I ended up buying a huge package of it because they eat a ton of tilapia in Ghana. Of course Justice loved it, and Peprah also raved and raved over it for a few days! For drinks Justice is enjoying Sunny Delight, Sprite, chocolate milk, grape juice, and strawberry lemonade. He likes them all!
Somebody asked me the other day if Justice was fascinated with discovering light switches, flushing the toilets, water from a faucet, etc. He didn’t have any of these things in the village where he was growing up, however Esi’s home (where he had been staying since June) does have all of the things so he made the transition into all of that during his time with her. There are a couple of things that he is fascinated with though. My hairstylist had mentioned that she guessed Justice would at some point become interested in my hair and want to touch it - because the texture is so different than what he has ever seen before. That started this weekend. While in the car on our road trip he started running his fingers through my hair and sort of inspected my hair for about 5 minutes. He did this on and off the entire weekend and is still investigating it every so often. Justice is also fascinated when I blow dry my hair! Whenever I turn on the hair dryer (almost every morning) he usually comes running in to watch. He stands there with a smile and just watches. I am sure he has never seen anything like it before. This weekend was also the first time I’ve cleaned since he has been home with us and he thought the vacuum was hilarious and a little scary at the same time. I had gotten the whole house cleaned except for 1 room while Jake had taken everyone out of the house for the afternoon. So when they got home I had just started vacuuming the last room and Justice hopped up on the bed and watched, although he would yell out (with a smile) if the vacuum came close to him.
Justice is very intuitive. If he has a question, he will ask it. This weekend at the tournament I could tell he was really taking in the atmosphere. Jake was coaching his high school girls team this weekend and I sat on the sideline with my munchkins. Some of Justice’s questions were Why does Daddy coach girls? You are a girl, you are supposed to coach girls. He also was struck by the emotion that the coaches displayed during the games. At one point he thought that one coach was crying, and at another point he asked Why doesn’t Daddy sit down? Isn’t he tired? And after watching Jake coach a few games he said Why does he put his hands on his head like that? Why is he yelling? Daddy is crazy! He also was watching the electronic score board for awhile and asked me who was keeping score….he’s used to seeing a chalk board type score board in which a person physically stands next to the board and marks the points. After the tournament we had stopped at Baskin Robbins to grab some ice cream for the ride home. Apparently this was the first time that Justice had watched us pay for something because he could not figure out the debit card and how that worked. In Ghana almost every transaction is done with cash. So we had about a 5 minute conversation about bank accounts and cards with cash on them.
Justice is still LOVING his bike. Every day he wants to go to the park and he wants to ride his bike. That’s all that he wants to do. He DOES NOT like going to the gym which is interesting! I don’t know if there are just too many people there for him, or if he just likes the comfort of being at home, but whenever we mention going to the gym he always says that he does not want to go! Anyways, if you were to watch him ride his bike now, you would think that he has done it for years. He’s a pro. The next skills that we need to work on are tying shoelaces, swimming, and putting together puzzles! The other afternoon JJ and I sat down to help Justice do a puzzle and it was so interesting because he had no idea how to even attempt it. I showed him how to start, then I let him try on his own for about 5 minutes and he wasn’t able to match up any pieces. Then JJ and I sat down and physically helped him and eventually he started to figure it out. But it’s going to take some more practice….I am sure he had never even seen a puzzle before until that day.
Justice loves to help. Anything and everything. He likes to load up the groceries into the trunk and unload them when we get home. He rinses off his dishes and puts them into the dishwasher. He helps Jayla get her shoes on when we are getting ready to head out the door. He puts all the outside toys away into their proper places after we are done playing. And he will make sure that I always have everything I need when we head out the door like my purse, phone, sweater, etc. He and JJ are also very similar in one area….and it is that they both always want to know the order of events for the day! Justice wants to know where we are going, what we are doing after that, and what we are doing after that! He likes to have the whole day’s plans mapped out in the morning so he has an idea of what to expect. JJ is the exact same with this! It is so funny!
To end, the other night I asked Justice if he missed Ghana. He said “No.” with a big smile. Then I asked him if he missed Ghana food and again he said “No.” So, I guess week 1 has proved to be a good transition so far. Here are a few pictures from the past couple of days:

Trying to go under........
Somebody asked me the other day if Justice was fascinated with discovering light switches, flushing the toilets, water from a faucet, etc. He didn’t have any of these things in the village where he was growing up, however Esi’s home (where he had been staying since June) does have all of the things so he made the transition into all of that during his time with her. There are a couple of things that he is fascinated with though. My hairstylist had mentioned that she guessed Justice would at some point become interested in my hair and want to touch it - because the texture is so different than what he has ever seen before. That started this weekend. While in the car on our road trip he started running his fingers through my hair and sort of inspected my hair for about 5 minutes. He did this on and off the entire weekend and is still investigating it every so often. Justice is also fascinated when I blow dry my hair! Whenever I turn on the hair dryer (almost every morning) he usually comes running in to watch. He stands there with a smile and just watches. I am sure he has never seen anything like it before. This weekend was also the first time I’ve cleaned since he has been home with us and he thought the vacuum was hilarious and a little scary at the same time. I had gotten the whole house cleaned except for 1 room while Jake had taken everyone out of the house for the afternoon. So when they got home I had just started vacuuming the last room and Justice hopped up on the bed and watched, although he would yell out (with a smile) if the vacuum came close to him.
Justice is very intuitive. If he has a question, he will ask it. This weekend at the tournament I could tell he was really taking in the atmosphere. Jake was coaching his high school girls team this weekend and I sat on the sideline with my munchkins. Some of Justice’s questions were Why does Daddy coach girls? You are a girl, you are supposed to coach girls. He also was struck by the emotion that the coaches displayed during the games. At one point he thought that one coach was crying, and at another point he asked Why doesn’t Daddy sit down? Isn’t he tired? And after watching Jake coach a few games he said Why does he put his hands on his head like that? Why is he yelling? Daddy is crazy! He also was watching the electronic score board for awhile and asked me who was keeping score….he’s used to seeing a chalk board type score board in which a person physically stands next to the board and marks the points. After the tournament we had stopped at Baskin Robbins to grab some ice cream for the ride home. Apparently this was the first time that Justice had watched us pay for something because he could not figure out the debit card and how that worked. In Ghana almost every transaction is done with cash. So we had about a 5 minute conversation about bank accounts and cards with cash on them.
Justice is still LOVING his bike. Every day he wants to go to the park and he wants to ride his bike. That’s all that he wants to do. He DOES NOT like going to the gym which is interesting! I don’t know if there are just too many people there for him, or if he just likes the comfort of being at home, but whenever we mention going to the gym he always says that he does not want to go! Anyways, if you were to watch him ride his bike now, you would think that he has done it for years. He’s a pro. The next skills that we need to work on are tying shoelaces, swimming, and putting together puzzles! The other afternoon JJ and I sat down to help Justice do a puzzle and it was so interesting because he had no idea how to even attempt it. I showed him how to start, then I let him try on his own for about 5 minutes and he wasn’t able to match up any pieces. Then JJ and I sat down and physically helped him and eventually he started to figure it out. But it’s going to take some more practice….I am sure he had never even seen a puzzle before until that day.
Justice loves to help. Anything and everything. He likes to load up the groceries into the trunk and unload them when we get home. He rinses off his dishes and puts them into the dishwasher. He helps Jayla get her shoes on when we are getting ready to head out the door. He puts all the outside toys away into their proper places after we are done playing. And he will make sure that I always have everything I need when we head out the door like my purse, phone, sweater, etc. He and JJ are also very similar in one area….and it is that they both always want to know the order of events for the day! Justice wants to know where we are going, what we are doing after that, and what we are doing after that! He likes to have the whole day’s plans mapped out in the morning so he has an idea of what to expect. JJ is the exact same with this! It is so funny!
To end, the other night I asked Justice if he missed Ghana. He said “No.” with a big smile. Then I asked him if he missed Ghana food and again he said “No.” So, I guess week 1 has proved to be a good transition so far. Here are a few pictures from the past couple of days:
Trying to go under........
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Freestylin'
Monday, October 4, 2010
This Is How We Know What Love Is
I’ve been getting some nice messages and emails from people I don’t even know. Thank you. I wanted to grab a line off someone’s note and post about it because I want you all to have a clear and honest picture of why our life looks the way it does. In a very nice note from someone I don’t know I read this:
The patience and love you have inside of you must be endless!
I must be honest and transparent in this post: There are days when I want to just run away from this craziness. Caring for this many people is HARD. There are days when I wake up and I am burdened because of the amount of energy and love and unselfishness that I am asked to pour out into these children. There are days when I am emotionally weary from handling all of these different personalities in our home….most of which rage war against my own complex personality. It does not come natural to me to love. I can tell you what comes natural though: selfishness. Some days I feel like I deserve my two hours of peace (during naps) and when that time is interrupted I am ready to start throwing punches. Some days I get sick of walking into my once nicely kept bathroom only to smell pee all over the floor and to see a ring of dirt around the tub that was just cleaned two days earlier. Some days I want to just be able to go for a run outside and not have to plan for a babysitter. Even the other night at 9pm I was locked out of my own bedroom by some certain 6 year old and 11 year old jokesters who were waiting for Daddy to come home and decided that they would play a trick on Mommy in the mean time.
It is not natural for me to love during these situations. The night I stood locked outside of my own bedroom I leaned my head against the door with tears in my eyes thinking to myself…what has happened to my life? Enter God’s definition of love:
This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. (1 John 3:16)
For those following Jesus, love is not an option. Love is a command. God’s definition of love IS NOT WARM FUZZY FEELINGS. It’s a lay down your life action. Jesus died so that we could have a relationship with God. So we could wake up every day and breathe air every day and live every day and not feel the torture of separation from God because of our sin. What is so warm and fuzzy about a man being tortured and bleeding to death on a cross? Yet, the Bible tells us that is true LOVE. That’s how much Jesus loved us. Even when we didn’t love Him back, even when we were still sinning in His face. He still DIED for us. Do we understand the weight of this? If we do, then in turn God tells us what our response should be: to lay down our lives for our brothers. Laying down our lives is not easy. It doesn’t feel natural. It’s going to take sacrifice. And day after day, God is growing His definition of love in me. God is teaching me that love is laying down my time, my desires, and my grasp on convenience and control and giving it up for others. The way Team Sullivan looks was not my idea. You have to know that from our life to go from this:

To this.....................................

And this...........................
takes something supernatural. Jake and I weren’t born with any extra love inside of us for others. We just obeyed when God put adoption on our hearts. That’s all that we did. From there God’s extraordinary gospel is teaching us how to love others. God has done all of this. I had a picture of what my family was going to look like. And God had a different one. And His plan trumps mine.
At the beginning of our adoption journey I had two very big fears 1) That I would not be able to love an adopted child as much as my own biological children. 2) That by adding a child by adoption that we were somehow taking some sort of right or privilege away from our own biological children. I can’t really explain this second fear in words….it was just how I felt. My fears were continually centered around my sense/idea of what my ideal family picture looked like. When we started in on our adoption, these fears didn’t magically go away. At times they were even magnified and would escalate into crazy scenarios in my mind. What if our adopted child ruins our family? What will having an older son do to JJ’s personality? As a mom I started this adoption with fears. But I was counting on God to work it out. I just kept telling myself, somehow, He’s going to work it out. And through our 2 year roller coaster of adoption, God took these fears....
And He…........................................

SQUASHED THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What I am saying by all of this is that YOU can do this too. Because God can teach you about His definition of love just like He has taught me. If you were at my house on any given day you may observe me and think that I maybe was born with LESS patience and love than the average person! :) None of this has come natural to me. I just obeyed what God put on my heart. And I am learning how to love.....God's way. Even when it is hard. Even on those days when I feel like running full speed away from the craziness. But if we know the definition of love, and understand that we only wake up each day because of Jesus, then we will want to learn how to follow His command to love others.
"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34)
The patience and love you have inside of you must be endless!
I must be honest and transparent in this post: There are days when I want to just run away from this craziness. Caring for this many people is HARD. There are days when I wake up and I am burdened because of the amount of energy and love and unselfishness that I am asked to pour out into these children. There are days when I am emotionally weary from handling all of these different personalities in our home….most of which rage war against my own complex personality. It does not come natural to me to love. I can tell you what comes natural though: selfishness. Some days I feel like I deserve my two hours of peace (during naps) and when that time is interrupted I am ready to start throwing punches. Some days I get sick of walking into my once nicely kept bathroom only to smell pee all over the floor and to see a ring of dirt around the tub that was just cleaned two days earlier. Some days I want to just be able to go for a run outside and not have to plan for a babysitter. Even the other night at 9pm I was locked out of my own bedroom by some certain 6 year old and 11 year old jokesters who were waiting for Daddy to come home and decided that they would play a trick on Mommy in the mean time.
It is not natural for me to love during these situations. The night I stood locked outside of my own bedroom I leaned my head against the door with tears in my eyes thinking to myself…what has happened to my life? Enter God’s definition of love:
This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. (1 John 3:16)
For those following Jesus, love is not an option. Love is a command. God’s definition of love IS NOT WARM FUZZY FEELINGS. It’s a lay down your life action. Jesus died so that we could have a relationship with God. So we could wake up every day and breathe air every day and live every day and not feel the torture of separation from God because of our sin. What is so warm and fuzzy about a man being tortured and bleeding to death on a cross? Yet, the Bible tells us that is true LOVE. That’s how much Jesus loved us. Even when we didn’t love Him back, even when we were still sinning in His face. He still DIED for us. Do we understand the weight of this? If we do, then in turn God tells us what our response should be: to lay down our lives for our brothers. Laying down our lives is not easy. It doesn’t feel natural. It’s going to take sacrifice. And day after day, God is growing His definition of love in me. God is teaching me that love is laying down my time, my desires, and my grasp on convenience and control and giving it up for others. The way Team Sullivan looks was not my idea. You have to know that from our life to go from this:

To this.....................................
And this...........................
At the beginning of our adoption journey I had two very big fears 1) That I would not be able to love an adopted child as much as my own biological children. 2) That by adding a child by adoption that we were somehow taking some sort of right or privilege away from our own biological children. I can’t really explain this second fear in words….it was just how I felt. My fears were continually centered around my sense/idea of what my ideal family picture looked like. When we started in on our adoption, these fears didn’t magically go away. At times they were even magnified and would escalate into crazy scenarios in my mind. What if our adopted child ruins our family? What will having an older son do to JJ’s personality? As a mom I started this adoption with fears. But I was counting on God to work it out. I just kept telling myself, somehow, He’s going to work it out. And through our 2 year roller coaster of adoption, God took these fears....
And He…........................................
SQUASHED THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What I am saying by all of this is that YOU can do this too. Because God can teach you about His definition of love just like He has taught me. If you were at my house on any given day you may observe me and think that I maybe was born with LESS patience and love than the average person! :) None of this has come natural to me. I just obeyed what God put on my heart. And I am learning how to love.....God's way. Even when it is hard. Even on those days when I feel like running full speed away from the craziness. But if we know the definition of love, and understand that we only wake up each day because of Jesus, then we will want to learn how to follow His command to love others.
"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34)
Friday, October 1, 2010
Thank You!
Our adoption of Justice would have never even started had it not been for God placing His plan for adoption into our hearts. We can only give the glory to Him for beginning this and finishing it in His faithfulness.
Along with this, we have had such a supportive group of family and friends that have been encouraging us for the past two years. Wow. In all the adoption literature that I read at the beginning of our journey, I was actually prepared to face the opposite of this. I had readied myself for off-key remarks, heartless questions, and confusion about transracial adoption. I had armed myself with knowledge to face even the most skilled devil’s advocates. Instead, we have received an outpouring of encouragement, support, prayers, love, and excitement for our new son. Wow. Thank you.
Thank you for all the text messages, emails, phone calls, and cards shouting out your support and love for our adoption of Justice. I came home from Ghana to 150 emails/facebook messages in my inbox!!!!! I have read each and every one, it will just take me some time to get back to each of you. THANK YOU!
Thank you to our Kingdom Hoops families who have dropped off tubs and tubs and tubs of boys clothes that can be given to Justice.
Thank you to our friends who have generously given us grocery gift cards and money for groceries.
Thank you to my friend who offered to clip coupons for me so that I can save time and money.
Thank you to my women’s bible study group who prayed me through the rough spots of this adoption….namely the unexpected termination of our adoption of Solomon, the unexpected court ruling of the interim adoption which was thankfully changed, and of course the unexpected happenings of our trip in June. So often I would show up to my bible study on Thursday morning ready to sink into the floor, but your prayers lifted me up and reminded me that God had a plan.
Thank you to the other adoptive families that we have grown so close to throughout this journey. Your experience ahead of us was such a comfort to lean on through the ups and downs of our own journey.
Thank you to my friends who have walked this journey with us from Day 1….always emailing, texting and calling with encouragement and scripture to spur us on.
Thank you that our first week home with Justice has been made so joy-filled as we are greeted by smiles and hugs everywhere we go!
Thank you to all the families who have offered to give us a bike for Justice!
Thank you to the Kingdom Hoops family for our new deep freeze!
Thank you to my women’s bible study group who filled the deep freeze up with food and meals!
Thank you to our adoption agency and to Kofi for working so hard to see this through.
Thank you to our families who have been so supportive of receiving a new family member by way of adoption!
Thank you to all of you unknown people out there in blog land who have been praying and praying and praying for this adoption to have a happy ending!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then he who sat on the throne said, "Behold, I make all things new." ~Revelation 21:5~
Along with this, we have had such a supportive group of family and friends that have been encouraging us for the past two years. Wow. In all the adoption literature that I read at the beginning of our journey, I was actually prepared to face the opposite of this. I had readied myself for off-key remarks, heartless questions, and confusion about transracial adoption. I had armed myself with knowledge to face even the most skilled devil’s advocates. Instead, we have received an outpouring of encouragement, support, prayers, love, and excitement for our new son. Wow. Thank you.
Thank you for all the text messages, emails, phone calls, and cards shouting out your support and love for our adoption of Justice. I came home from Ghana to 150 emails/facebook messages in my inbox!!!!! I have read each and every one, it will just take me some time to get back to each of you. THANK YOU!
Thank you to our Kingdom Hoops families who have dropped off tubs and tubs and tubs of boys clothes that can be given to Justice.
Thank you to our friends who have generously given us grocery gift cards and money for groceries.
Thank you to my friend who offered to clip coupons for me so that I can save time and money.
Thank you to my women’s bible study group who prayed me through the rough spots of this adoption….namely the unexpected termination of our adoption of Solomon, the unexpected court ruling of the interim adoption which was thankfully changed, and of course the unexpected happenings of our trip in June. So often I would show up to my bible study on Thursday morning ready to sink into the floor, but your prayers lifted me up and reminded me that God had a plan.
Thank you to the other adoptive families that we have grown so close to throughout this journey. Your experience ahead of us was such a comfort to lean on through the ups and downs of our own journey.
Thank you to my friends who have walked this journey with us from Day 1….always emailing, texting and calling with encouragement and scripture to spur us on.
Thank you that our first week home with Justice has been made so joy-filled as we are greeted by smiles and hugs everywhere we go!
Thank you to all the families who have offered to give us a bike for Justice!
Thank you to the Kingdom Hoops family for our new deep freeze!
Thank you to my women’s bible study group who filled the deep freeze up with food and meals!
Thank you to our adoption agency and to Kofi for working so hard to see this through.
Thank you to our families who have been so supportive of receiving a new family member by way of adoption!
Thank you to all of you unknown people out there in blog land who have been praying and praying and praying for this adoption to have a happy ending!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then he who sat on the throne said, "Behold, I make all things new." ~Revelation 21:5~
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